Don't focus on Just the Prize, Originally posted Sept. 15, 2010

My first official post, I feel, should be about focus. Not how to maintain focus on the “prize” so to speak. But how to channel focus in the right direction. If your focus is wrong, everything else I have to say will be meaningless. My blog is not about how to find the one, or dating advice necessarily. Instead, it is about becoming “The One” for Your One that you were created for. And the focus here needs to be about the relationship you have with the Creator in order for Him to guide you to each other.
When I realized I was really ready to get married, I started praying for my husband to come… Not exactly the best way to do things, I discovered… This all started last spring and all summer God showed me things about where my focus was, and where it should be. Over the course of the summer, I realized that, as a woman of God, I was to be pursued, not sitting around waiting to chase someone.
Proverbs 18:22 (NLT) says, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and receives favor from the Lord.” As He showed me this, I realized that it says The man who finds a wife, not the woman who finds a husband. This let me know that my focus was off, because if I was in the right place, he would find me. So then I started realizing that I needed to start getting in the mindset of being taken, man or no man. If I kept looking and casually dating, the transition into wife would be harder. So I became a wife in my heart, and told God that the next boyfriend I had would be my last and become my husband. 2 months later, I met him…. 1 year after we started dating, we have been married for 4 months!
This was only after I started enjoying my life as it was, and appreciating God’s MANY blessings! I see it as His promise of a good man for me is like a great, beautiful tree in a field full of beautiful, colorful flowers, and trees. These other flowers and trees represent the everyday blessings in my life. Without the other flowers, a tree alone is just a tree, but the entire field is to be enjoyed. Do not let the other blessings become out of focus because of the big tree!